I am bored and cannot sleep. I have to write something for tomorrow on where women are in the 3rd wave. Fuck off, that is the whole problem with the 3rd wave: we don’t know where we are. We have so many types of women with so many different interests and this resistance to form solidarities with each other.
We have the postfemininst – those who enjoy the achievments of feminism (abortion rights, marital rape protection, the vote, the birth control pill just a few things to mention) but they won’t actually call themselves feminists. Why? Well that is the question. Is it that they don’t think feminism is needed or relevant, or maybe that the word itself doesn’t connotate what is means now.Then there is the struggle between the 2nd and 3rd wavers. The 2nd’s think the the 3rd are too fluffy and don’t understand how they can be more concerned with makeup and miniskirts than with social activism. While the 3rd wavers think the 2nd wavers are boring and don’t know how to have fun. The 3rd wavers are called lipstick feminists.
What is the state of women? I don’t have the authority to speak for all women. I can speak for myself and my own observations of where I see feminism going and living in our lives. I see women becoming empowered everywhere I turn, they are acting but not labeling with feminism. I see women wanting more and taking more. However, I see this paradox of gender.I see women becoming more like men and men becoming more like women. I see a sameness approach going on where people are becoming a prototype of success. It isn’t about gender anymore, it is about power. Whatever makes someone more powerful with more edge seems to be the mass appeal that grabs, regardless of gender.
In the postmodern era how can we all form solidarity based on gender when there are so many other social positions going on. I don’t personally identify with a female, Muslim, doctor because she is female. I have nothing in common with her accept basic biological makeup, but that is simply not enough anymore. Not enough to form solidarity with.
Feminists have offered more fluid structures for solidarity based on coalitions or geneologies so that women can find common ground without neglecting their other social locators. Marilyn Frye suggests patterning categories instead of perpetuating Cartisean dualism where categories for people are based on P and Non-P. Frye wants us to make fluid categories based on the median instead of the whole sample so create these coalitions and get somewhere. We clearly cannot place people into one-dimensional categories b/c there is so much more going on, but we still need patterns or fluid categories to understand social locators that people are percieving. This hasn’t brought me much closer to what I want to say. I think I will need to layout the major problem of the third wave - ’locating ourselves in a non-locating era. Where do we go from here’ 
